We have to know how to hold things lightly, and with joy. This enables us to be open to the flow of life. When we solidify, we lose so much.
Engaged in a relationship with our partner, our children, and with others in this world, we may solidify them by casting them in certain roles. That’s how we see them.
And after a while, we no longer experience the real person in the moment. We just see our projection of that person. Even though they are completely unique, and even though they may actually be transforming and changing within, we don’t see that any more, because all we see is our pattern. …
Then people get bored with each other, or at least they get kind of locked into a relationship which has lost its early vitality. …
That’s because we don’t experience the actual moment; we just experience our version of events.
